How Do I Get Into
Cyberspace? Whatever your age, the Internet is a great place to hang out. It's not only fun, but it lets you keep in touch with friends and family and provides an enormous amount of information. There are lots of great educational sites as well as places to keep up with your favorite sports, hobbies, music, and much more. If youre a teen, we probably don't need to sell you on the benefits of the Internet. Many of you know far more than your parents or even teachers about the wonders of cyberspace. If you're a parent, talk to your kids about the Net and if you need to learn more see if they can help you. Either way, it's important for teens and parents to share knowledge. You have something to learn from each other if not about the Internet, then about life in general, how to make good decisions, and how to look at information critically. Cyberspace is like a big city. There are libraries, universities, museums, places to have fun, and plenty of opportunities to meet wonderful people from all walks of life. But, like any community, there are also some people and areas that you ought to avoid and others that you should approach only with caution. By knowing the dangers and how to avoid them, you can take advantage of all the positive aspects of the Internet while avoiding most of its pitfalls. If you're a teen or a parent of a teenager you might feel that you don't need the same restrictions and controls as younger kids. You may be right, but just because you're older doesn't mean that you're out of danger. Teenagers are actually more likely to get into trouble online than younger kids. Teens are more likely to explore out-of-the-way nooks and crannies of cyberspace, they're more likely to reach out to people outside of their immediate peer groups and, sadly, they're more often preyed upon as victims by pedophiles and other exploiters. There are lots of front doors to cyberspace, including Internet service providers and online services, that can provide you with an account that gives you access to everything on the public Internet. This includes web sites, E-mail, chat rooms, file libraries, discussion groups (called newsgroups), and lots of other services including the ability to listen to music and view videos. An online service can, in some situations, exercise some control over the type of content and customer conduct in its own areas, but the services have no control or jurisdiction over what takes place on the Internet as a whole. And even within their own areas, these services cant possibly police everything that happens. So, even if youre going online using one of these services, youre not completely protected from the larger dangers. Before going into the dangers, let's put this into context. Millions of teenagers go online every day, and most are safe. The way to stay safe is to understand the dangers and follow some simple rules to help you stay out of trouble. By following these rules you minimize the risks, but you can never completely eliminate all risks in life.
Not everything that can go wrong in cyberspace
necessarily puts you in physical danger. There are web sites, newsgroups, chat
rooms, and other places online that contain material that could make you feel
uncomfortable. It could be material thats sexual and/or violent in
nature. It could be material espousing hateful attitudes or discussing
activities that you find repulsive or unpleasant. It really doesnt matter
what it is. What does matter is that you have the right and the tools
to instantly remove yourself from any area where you feel you
shouldnt be.
The most serious risk you can face involves the
possibility of someone hurting or exploiting you because of information that
you post or someone else posts about you online or because of something you do
or somewhere you go as a result of what you encounter online. The number of
teens who are molested, abducted, or leave home as a result of contacts made on
the Internet are relatively low, but when it happens the results can be tragic.
The Internet, like so many other places in
this world, is home to people who would try to take money from you or your
family or just pester you with unwelcome advertising and marketing material. Be
especially wary of any get rich quick schemes that promise to help
earn you lots of money in your spare time. If something sounds too good
to be true, it probably is.
Not everyone in cyberspace minds their manners.
When youre online, especially in chat rooms or bulletin boards, there is
a chance that youll get messages that are harassing, demeaning, or just
plain mean. Dont take it personally. A message that is demeaning
says a lot more about the sender than it does about the person who gets it.
Ironically, even people who are nice in the real world can forget
their manners when they go online. The best thing to do if you encounter
messages or people in chat rooms who are acting that way is to ignore them.
Some messages, however, may constitute harassment, which is a crime under
federal law. If someone sends you messages or images that are obscene, lewd,
filthy, or indecent with the intent to harass, abuse, annoy, or threaten you, report
it to your Internet service provider and the National Center for Missing and
Exploited Children's CyberTipline by calling 1-800-843-5678.
Avoid anything that might hurt people and risk getting yourself into trouble. You need to respect other people's privacy and avoid taking any actions that annoy, harass, or hurt other people. You are responsible for your behavior online.
Web sites give you the opportunity to read newspapers, tour museums, check out libraries, visit distant lands, play games, look at pictures, shop, or do research to help you with your homework. You can pursue your hobbies, plan vacations, and much more. There are millions of web sites on just about every topic imaginable. Did You Know? Some web sites are wonderful, others are kind of dumb, and some contain so-called "adult" images and other material that teens should avoid. Still others are violent, racist, sexist, and demeaning. Some of these sites contain material that can be disturbing, even for adults. If you wander into any of these areas, it's best to leave immediately by clicking on the Home icon, going to another site, or shutting down your browser . Caution In addition to displaying information, web sites sometimes ask you for information about yourself. The site may ask for your name, mailing address, E-mail address , and other information before it will let you in. It may entice you to provide information in exchange for sending you a promotional item or entering you in a contest. Never enter any information about yourself without first checking with your parents. When you enter information on a web site or anyplace on the Internet, you're giving up a bit of your privacy. At best, your name will wind up in some database , probably to be used to sell you something now or later. At worst, it could be used to harm or exploit you. Just because a web site seems to be operated by a reputable organization or individual doesn't mean that it necessarily is what it seems to be. Anyone – including creeps and criminals – can set up their own web site. So be extremely cautious before telling the "web master" anything about yourself. This is especially true with sites that contain adult material. Some teenagers have their own web sites or post
material to web sites maintained by their school or an organization. That's
terrific, but if you do post something on the web, be sure never to include
your home address, telephone number, or a photograph of yourself. If you do
want people to be able to contact you through the web, just give an E-mail
address.
Chat rooms let you engage in a live conversation with people around the block or around the world. Its like being on a party line, only you type instead of talk. Everyone in the "chat room" can see everything you type. The types of chat rooms vary depending on the service youre using. Some chat rooms are just open conversations. Everyone has a pretty much equal role. Some rooms are moderated where there is a speaker who is leading the discussion and participants. Some rooms have chaperons or monitors who are responsible for maintaining order, but even in some of these rooms what you type is displayed immediately. The monitor can kick someone out of the room who is acting in an inappropriate manner, but he or she may be able to act only after the fact. The monitor cant, however, prevent you from going off to a private chat area with a person who might do you harm or typing information that could put you in danger. Did You Know? Chat is probably the most dangerous area on the Internet for a couple of reasons. As with other areas of the Internet, you dont know who is there, so never say anything in a chat room that you wouldnt say in public. Its not uncommon for people to make friends in chat rooms. You enter a room; start a conversation with someone; and, before you know it, youve established a relationship of sorts. That relationship could turn out OK, but there are some not-so-happy stories. Chat rooms are sometimes used by people to exploit others. To put it bluntly, chat rooms especially those used by teenagers are sometimes also used by pedophiles to find victims. Adults or even older teens seeking to exploit younger people don't necessarily tell the truth about who they are. You might meet someone in a room who appears to be sympathetic and understanding and offers you wonderful advice and counsel. If the relationship remains strictly online, that could be OK as long as youre careful not to give out any personal information and you let your parents know. Caution It can be tempting to get together with someone you meet in a chat room, but remember people are not always who they seem to be. The basic rules for online safety apply to all areas of the Internet, but they are especially important in chat areas. Never give out personal information, and never arrange a face-to-face meeting with someone you meet in a chat room without first checking with your parents and taking the precautions listed in Never Get Together With Someone You Meet Online on page 12. Chat rooms are sometimes organized around topics, so avoid any topic area that makes you feel uncomfortable. But just because a chat room is designed around a particular topic doesnt mean that other topics arent discussed. Even if the room is teens only, you have no way of knowing if everyone really is a teenager, so you still have to be on guard. Be especially careful of chat rooms that get into subjects that might be associated with sex or cults or groups that practice potentially dangerous rituals. It might seem interesting or even fun to discuss actions that you might never consider engaging in, but some people who fantasize about things also like to carry them out. Be suspicious of anyone who tries to turn you against your parents, teachers, or friends. They may have a hidden agenda. On some services and web sites you can enter into a private chat area where you can arrange to meet friends. In some cases, those rooms are truly private. But in other cases they may be listed in a directory of rooms. If so, there is nothing to stop others from entering those rooms. One trick to avoid harassment, especially for women and
girls, is to choose a gender-neutral name like your initials or a word
to use in a chat room. Its fine to be cute or funny with the name
you choose, but be sure it doesnt identify you and doesnt have any
meaning or implication that might encourage others to bother you.
E-mail is typically a one-to-one communications system. Just like regular mail, you write to someone and they can write back. Did You Know? Increasingly, people and companies are using E-mail to send out messages to thousands of people at a time, encouraging them to buy something, do something, or visit a web site. The process, known as spamming, can be intrusive and annoying. Because E-mail is essentially free, spammers can send out thousands or even millions of messages at little or no cost. Some use spamming to try to entice people to visit sexually explicit web sites. Each E-mail message that you send and receive contains a return address. What many people dont realize is that the return address can be fake. So, just because you get a message from grandma@cottage.com doesnt mean its really from grandma. It could really be from wolf@bigfangs.com. E-mail also contains other information called a header that provides more information about who sent the message and where it came from. Understanding the header information can be difficult, but if you ever receive an E-mail message that is belligerent, threatening, or contains material that makes you feel uncomfortable, you should report it to your Internet service provider and ask them to investigate where it came from. If the material appears to be illegal in nature, you should report it to the CyberTipline at www.missingkids.com/cybertip or call 1-800-843-5678. Illegal material includes threats to your life or safety, threats to others, child pornography, and evidence of other crimes. NCMEC will refer this report to the appropriate federal law enforcement agencies. Caution Be careful how you respond to E-mail from people you dont know. Remember, the sender might not be who he or she seems to be. Never send a photograph of yourself or any personal information to someone you don't know. Also, E-mail can easily be copied and forwarded to others. So if you do send personal information to friends, be sure that they are willing to respect your privacy. In general, its best not to respond to spam mail
or mail from someone you dont know. By responding, you are verifying to
the sender that you have a valid E-mail address, and that information can be
used to encourage a person who may send inappropriate E-mails or get you on
even more lists. If you receive a message that contains material that is
sexually explicit, violent, or advocates something that is illegal or simply
makes you feel uncomfortable, show it to your parents and report that
message to your Internet service provider. You can usually find that address on
the services main web page (www.servicename.com). When in doubt, report
the message to postmaster@servicename.com (substitute the name of your service
for servicename).
Newsgroups (sometimes called bulletin boards or forums) are places where you can read and post messages or download or upload files. Unlike chat rooms, newsgroups are not live or "real time." If you post a message it remains on the newsgroup for people to look at later. Newsgroups can also be used to post files including computer programs, pictures, illustrations, and stories. Did You Know? There are newsgroups on almost every possible subject, and they are often used as ways to get questions answered and share information about hobbies, musical groups, or any other subject of interest. Unfortunately, newsgroups, like other areas of cyberspace, have risks. Caution The biggest risk is that you might post something that reveals information about yourself. Even if you are responding to a particular individual's posting, what you type, in most cases, is available for anyone to see. So, once again, remember the basic rules and never reveal identifying information about yourself. In many cases, the mere act of posting something makes your E-mail address public. Even if you don't say anything revealing, your address will be available for people to send you E-mail that could be bothersome, and newsgroups are a favorite place for people who send out junk mail ("spam") to gather addresses. There are newsgroups that contain sexually explicit stories, illustrations, and photographs. In some cases, this material may be illegal, especially if it contains images of people who are younger than the age of 18 or certain other material that has been defined as "obscene." Some of this material can be disturbing and should be avoided. It is dangerous to post anything in these types of groups because anything you type reveals your E-mail address which could reveal your identity. Remember, anytime you post to a newsgroup you are broadcasting your E-mail address, even if you dont include your actual name. Your parents spent more than a decade educating you and teaching you about things they know. Now it's your turn. Regardless of whether your parents are Internet novices or technology gurus, there are probably things you know about the Internet that they don't. This is a great opportunity for you to show them what you do online and, perhaps, help them get more out of the Internet themselves. Hey, it could be the start of a whole new relationship. Basic Rules of Online Safety for Teens
If youre in any type of public forum, avoid
giving out your full name, your mailing address, your telephone number, the
name of your school, or any other information that could help someone determine
your actual identity. The same applies to your family and friends. Never
reveal anything about other people that could possibly get them into
trouble.
The biggest danger to your safety is if you get
together with someone you meet online. Remember, you never know for
certain if people you meet online are who they say they are. If you do feel
its appropriate to meet with someone, discuss it with your parents and
never go to the meeting by yourself. Arrange to meet in a public place, like a
coffee shop or mall that you (not just the other person) are familiar and
comfortable with, and never go alone. The safest procedure is to have your
parents talk with the parents of the other person and for both of you to bring
your parents along on the first meeting.
It isn't your fault if you get a message that is mean
or in any way makes you feel uncomfortable. If you get such a message, don't
respond. Instead, show it to your parents or a trusted adult to see if there is
anything you can do to make it stop. Sending a response just encourages the
person.
It's important that you and your parents are on the same channel when it comes to your online activities. This includes when you can go online, how long you can stay online, and what activities you can do online. Communicating with your parents doesn't mean that you have to give up your privacy. It just means that you come to an agreement based on mutual trust and understanding. While you're at it, perhaps you can help your parents better understand the Internet, what it can be used for, and how it is helpful for teens.
Be reasonable and set reasonable expectations. Try to
understand their needs, interests, and curiosity. Remember what it was
like when you were their age.
If they tell you about someone or something they
encountered, your first response should not be to blame them or take away their
Internet privileges. Work with them to help them avoid problems in the future,
and remember how you respond will determine whether they confide in you
the next time they encounter a problem and how they learn to deal with problems
on their own.
Ask your teen to show you what's cool. Have them show
you great places for teens and fill you in on areas that you might benefit from
as well. Make surfing the net a family experience. Use it to plan a
vacation, pick out a movie, or check out other family activities. This may be
one area where you get to be the student and your kid gets to be the
teacher.
As you may know, there are now services that rate web sites for content as well as filtering programs and browsers that empower parents to block the types of sites they consider to be inappropriate. These programs work in different ways. Some block sites known to contain objectionable material. Some prevent users from entering certain types of information such as their name and address. Other programs keep your kids away from chat rooms or restrict their ability to send or read E-mail. Generally these programs can be configured by the parent to block only the types of sites that the parent considers to be objectionable. Whether or not it is appropriate to use one of these programs is a personal decision. If you do use such a program, you'll probably need to explain to your teen why you feel it is necessary. You should also be careful to choose a program whose criteria reflects your family's values. Be sure to configure it so that it doesn't block sites that you want your teen to be able to visit. It is important to realize that filtering programs cannot protect your child from all dangers in cyberspace. To begin with, no program can possibly block out every inappropriate site. What's more, its possible, in some cases, for the programs to block sites that are appropriate. If you use a filtering program, you should re-evaluate it periodically to make sure it's working for your family. Regardless of whether you use a filtering program, you should still be sure that your teen follows all of the basic rules listed in this brochure. Filtering programs are not a substitute for good judgment or critical thinking. With or without filters, kids and their parents need to be net savvy. This brochure was written by Lawrence J. Magid, a syndicated columnist for the Los Angeles Times, and host of www.safekids.com and www.safeteens.com. He is also the author of Cruising Online: Larry MagidsGuide to the New Digital Highway (Random House, 1994) a The Little PC Book (Peachpit Press, 1993). Teen Safety on the Information Highway was jointly produced by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, Interactive Services Association, and The MASTER Teacher. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children was established in 1984 as a private, nonprofit organization and serves as a clearinghouse of information on missing and exploited children per federal statutes 42 USC § 5771 and 42 USC § 5780. A 24-hour, toll-free Hotline and CyberTipline is open for those who have information on missing and exploited children at 1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678)/www.missingkids.com/cybertip. NCMEC is located at Suite 550, 2101 Wilson Boulevard, Arlington, Virginia 22201-3077. Project OPEN is a partnership of the Interactive Services Association, the National Consumers League, and the leading Internet and online services America Online, AT&T, CompuServe, Microsoft, NETCOM, and Bell Atlantic on privacy issues, working to educate consumers about safe and responsible online use. For more information contact the Project OPEN web site at <www.isa.net/project-open> or toll-free at 1-800-466-OPEN. Founded in 1969, The MASTER Teacher provides staff development publications, videos, software, and other motivational resources to help teachers and administrators work with students to better fulfill the work and mission of schools. The MASTER Teacher (PO Box 1207, Manhattan, Kansas 66505-1207) can be contacted at 1-800-669-9633 or visit their web site at www.masterteacher.com. This brochure is brought to you as part
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